One of the most distressing sexual problem a man can suffer from is Premature Ejaculation, or as we say ” coming too soon”. A man suffering from premature ejaculation will tend to ejaculate immediately on penetration or within a matter of seconds after an intercourse.
This can be stressful in any relationship, as both partners are not satisfied. Repeated instances of premature ejaculation can cause bitterness and upset relationship between partners. Also, if a man suffers from frequent premature ejaculation, he will tend to avoid sex and hurt his relationship as a result.
The longer this problem is left unattended the harder it gets to treat, but be assured all cases of PE is treatable, whatever the under lying cause.
The most usual triggers of Premature Ejaculation are listed below:
- Anxiety or stress , not just those related to the relationship.
- Performance anxiety, especially true with a new partner.
- Frequent excessive masturbation, can cause the formation os the habit of early climaxing
- Lack of Self confidence
- Lack of control over sexual arousal.
- Rushing the sexual act, for example the fear of getting caught in the act might hasten ejaculation.
Sexual inexperience, hormonal imbalance and abstinence are some other triggers of Premature Ejaculation. This affects relationships to some degree. A new partner might not be that patient and sympathetic, while a long term partner might be more accepting and helpful to find a solution. But this does not hide the fact that they might not be satisfied with their partner if this is a long term problem, and their sex life is non existent. While this is unfair on the man if he is seeking help, it’s the sad truth.
Medical intervention might be needed to help severe cases of premature ejaculation, especially if it does not improve with self treatment or natural techniques.
Don’t despair as mild cases of premature ejaculation can be avoided by using some time tested tips. Just follow these and you will never cum too early.
- Local Anesthetic Gels: Application of anesthetic gel to the shaft of the penis before intercourse works fine for some couples as a cure for PE. But be aware the gel can cause stinging, redness and soreness, on those sensitive to it, and might also make sex less enjoyable to your partner. Do check with a medical doctor before using it.
- “Long Love: Special condoms: This was first discovered bt German scientists but is not available world wide under different names and brands. It contains a local anesthetic (Benzocaine) and again it works fine, unless you are sensitive or allergic to the ingredient.
- The Stop Start Technique: This is a technique any man can try alone in privacy. The technique is simple, you try to masturbate with dry hands to the point of climax and stop just before you cum. Repeat this a couple of times, for example three, and the ejaculate on the fourth. Once you are more practised you can move to trying it with wet hands, which is more natural in feel like the inside of a woman’s vagina.
These are some simple tips that will help you with premature ejaculation control. A sex therapist can teach you other methods of controlling ejaculation. These are better done under supervision and instructions. In cases where none of these techniques helps your doctor can prescribe drugs as seen necessary. Just do remember Premature ejaculation is treatable and you don’t have to suffer.
